Rules to Follow When Looking for a Marriage Partner
31.
There are shortcomings that pose no danger or excessive inconvenience, such as migraines, allergies or eczema. People who had a serious illness in childhood fall into this category. If the interested party does not ask about such matters (in this category), you should not volunteer the information.
Examples:
1) Smokes.
2) Does not go to bed on time.
3) Age and height.
4) Easily hurt.
5) Has no steady income.
6) Loud or, on the contrary, withdrawn and very quiet.
7) Does not have extensive Torah knowledge (except when it is known for certain that Torah knowledge is one of the other party's main criteria).
8) Shortcomings of close relatives.
32.
If the shidduch has already been agreed upon and the other party discovers one of these shortcomings, they generally do not break off the shidduch but try to find a compromise, reach an agreement or find something that can compensate for the shortcoming. This is precisely why there is no obligation to disclose it (and one should not do so).
33.
Sometimes, when people are compatible in other respects, you should not go into detail about these minor shortcomings or draw attention to them.