Conflicting Needs - Struggling and Feeling Good
A wife's need—for her husband to sympathize with her problems—conflicts with a man's need. She needs him to agree that she is having a hard time, while he needs his wife to radiate a positive attitud…
Psychology of family life
Read articles on family relationships, understanding one another, communication in marriage and shalom bayit, peace in the home.
Shalom Bayit: preparing a family conversation
The Connection Between Compassion and Love
Love and compassion We can find the connection between compassion and bonding in the most authoritative Aramaic translation of the Torah, by Onkelos, and in the words of the Maharal. Onkelos consiste…
The Difficulty of Agreeing
What makes a woman feel most strongly that her husband is attached to her? Agreement. Agreement with her position, approval of her reasoning, sharing her feelings. She is not asking him to change his…
A Woman’s Strongest Need
The needs that bind a wife to her husband A woman’s strongest need that binds her to her husband is to feel their unity in every situation, without conditions or limits. She wants to be sure that she…
A Man’s Need for Gratitude
Another need that binds husband and wife together, and that a man feels very strongly, is for “gratitude” from her: for her to thank him for everything he does for her, even small things. Let us try…
A Man’s Strongest Need
Alongside the mechanism that triggers feelings of unease when his wife is unhappy, the Almighty has instilled in a man an overwhelming need for her to be happy, to be satisfied with family life in ge…
The Mechanism of Male Anxiety
It is remarkable how the Almighty brings together a man and a woman – so different in their very nature – through the needs that bind them. Here is a situation familiar to many of us. In conversation…
Communication in the Family - Talking with Your Husband
Part 2. Read part 1. A Carefully Planned Conversation So let us begin by making sure that a conversation with our husband is carefully planned rather than spontaneous. Let us bear in mind that he has…
Communication in the Family
Communication is one of the most important things in building a Jewish home, and later on, in sustaining a strong relationship. What is communication, called tikshoret in Hebrew? Within the word tiks…